Episode 5 Final
[00:00:00] Welcome to the Extraordinary Life Podcast from the creator of the Extraordinary Life Tribe, Crystal Obregon, the self-development podcast propelling you forward toward your goals. Using science backed high performance habits. Reach the next level in your physical and mental health. See new Heights in your relationships.
[00:00:18] Gain clarity on your purpose and live your extraordinary life. Welcome your host writers, speaker and coach crystal over gone. This is Crystal Obregon of Crystal Obregon Coaching coming to you with a great topic this week, a lot of people ask me what they can start doing right away to start working towards their dreams.
[00:00:47] And so I came up with six. So the first one, and you will recognize this from a few weeks ago is gratitude practice. I really. I think that's the first place to [00:01:00] start in achieving your dreams because for a couple of reasons, as I went into in a few weeks ago, really, when you're grateful and appreciative of what is already in your life, then you, when, as we'll talk about in a little bit, you become clearer on what your values are and what's important to you.
[00:01:27] And you also start changing your brain really to notice the positive. And it really makes S I cannot even tell you what a huge difference it makes, but, but being grateful for what is already in your life makes, makes a great difference. And it's really the first thing you should do. If you are trying to accomplish something.
[00:01:52] So the second is to gain clarity on what your dreams really are. This may seem [00:02:00] like a no-brainer, but really if you're not completely clear on what it is, you actually want, your actions will be disorganized and you'll flip flop a lot, honestly. So one of the most important things that I did when, and it was an exercise I did when.
[00:02:20] Doing my certification for health coaching is, is really to look ahead a year, three years and 10 years. I dunno if we did five years as well, but when your three-year 10 years and, and going back to the old, um, tricks that I used as an algebra or as an algebra tutor. First you put in what you know. And so for example, the first thing I did is put in how old will I be in all those years?
[00:02:53] How old will the most important family members, uh, be in those [00:03:00] years? And so for me, it was me and my husband. And then how old will my kids be in one year, three years, 10 years. And so that gives a framework and it also gives a whole lot of perspective. And, and then the next thing is really to fill in those basics of what you really want your life to look like in those years.
[00:03:25] And you'll be surprised that it'll start to fill in and the gratitude and appreciation will come back into. So I did this seven years ago, I realized which is amazing because all of a sudden I was looking at, okay, my son would have been seven and my daughter would have been 11. So when you think of how quickly seven years went, how quickly 11 years went?
[00:03:54] Basically, I was looking at seven years till my daughter. I was going to go away to college. Although [00:04:00] actually I probably thought it was eight years. Cause she accelerated here in the last year and a half because she wanted to get to college a little faster. And so all of a sudden you start, oh, I'd better.
[00:04:11] Appreciate this time. Even though if you have kids you'll know that it's not all fun and games all the time. So it just gives you that, that framework. And then you can start to really become clear on what those dreams are. So then the next thing I would say to do so the third thing is to really spend some time after you've done that framework, really imagining your life, your life in five years or your life in 10 years, really do some journaling.
[00:04:49] And I'm talking about your dream life. If you had to wave a magic wand, and I know you probably heard people say this, but what would you really want your life to be like? Because [00:05:00] that's actually how I want you to be thinking is how would your life be? Like, if you could wave a magic wand and have your life be however you wanted it to be, what would that really be?
[00:05:14] And I've given you the framework. And you've created that framework. So spend time writing on that journaling on it. And it's not a one and done thing it's, you can go back many times as I'll tell you so really to schedule that time. So the fourth thing is to start thinking about what you would have to do to make that dream life happen.
[00:05:40] And then think also about what stops you. Or what do you think is stopping you from creating that dream life and journal on both of those things? And so then number five is what are some short-term goals? And it could be one, two or three. I wouldn't [00:06:00] recommend more than three, but what are some short-term goals that could move you closer to that dream life that you want?
[00:06:09] And I would recommend somewhere in the. Three three months, six months, even a year out as a short term, shorter term goal. So what are those goals that would get you closer? And then the fifth thing that you can do is I'm sorry. That's the sixth thing is look at those goals and dreams every single day.
[00:06:36] And even better write them down every single day, because we all know that if we're not looking at them every day, it's really easy to get caught up in our daily lives and, and never get to them, which leads me to number seven, which is to schedule. Time blocks of time to actively [00:07:00] work towards your goals.
[00:07:01] So for example, I'll choose an easy one. If you are wanting to get into better shape, then if I were to look at your calendar, I would want to see if I was your coach. I would want to see that you had scheduled in blocks of time. To work out to go for hikes, a walk, a bike, ride, a swim, whatever it is that you like to do for exercise, I would expect each week to see at least three times during the week that you had scheduled.
[00:07:37] To do those things, because if it's not, I think it's Marie Forleo that said it's not scheduled. It's not real. And so those are the seven things let's see gratitude, practice, gaining clarity on your dreams, imagining your dream life and figuring out what you have to do to make that happen. [00:08:00] And then what has stopped you in the past and setting some short-term goals?
[00:08:05] Looking at them every day and then scheduling and time blocks to work towards those shorter term goals, which work towards your longer term goals. So that's it seven things, not six things too, that you could do right now to get you working towards your goals, because we all know people, I know people who have desires and dreams and.
[00:08:35] They don't get any closer to those because the days, weeks, months, years pass so quickly and they simply lose connection to them even becoming a reality. So I don't want that to be. Let me know how it goes. I also have some design, your decade workshops coming up. I have the live version. I would love to join [00:09:00] you for that to go through it as a group, or I also have a do it yourself version as well.
[00:09:06] So you could go through it on your own. All right, take care. Have a great week. And I will see you in here soon. Bye for now. Thank you for listening to the extraordinary life podcast with Ryder and coach crystal Obregon. We'd love to connect with you outside of the podcast, too, to find more helpful insights, show notes and more about crystal.
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