Podcast Episode #25 Finalq
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[00:00:00] Welcome to the Extraordinary Life Podcast from the creator of the Extraordinary Life Tribe, Crystal Obregon, the self-development podcast propelling you forward toward your goals, using science backed high performance habits. Reach the next level in your physical and mental health. See new heights in your relationships.
[00:00:18] Gain clarity on your purpose and live your extraordinary life. Welcome your host writer, speaker and coach Crystal Obregon . Hi there. This is Crystal from Crystal Obregon Coaching with episode number 25 of the Extraordinary Life Podcast. I just led one of my Design Your Decade workshops, and I have two more coming up for the first week of January.
[00:00:51] I know December is a busy month with the holidays. So I wanted to give you a chance to do this important work at the beginning of the year. [00:01:00] I believe it's important to start with your big dreams before you're thinking about your goals, your projects, your resolutions, all of it. If you haven't envisioned your dream of how you want your life to be.
[00:01:15] How can you know if your intentions and goals will support that, or if they're aligned with your big dreams even more. So how will you keep your motivation up on a day to day basis? I'd love for you to join me in one of the January workshops or grab yourself a copy of the do -it- yourself version. In the meantime, if you'd like to get a jumpstart, use these questions to speed up the arrival of your dreams.
[00:01:47] The first question is what's your highest priority in this lifetime? I know that's big, but think about what's most important for you to [00:02:00] experience, explore or embrace. Until you answer this question, your life goals could be off purpose. If you're an aligned with your inner passion, your intentions can lack the power to attract the people, the situations, the opportunities necessary for your dreams to become a reality.
[00:02:26] And to do this. Think about what brings you joy, what activities did you enjoy as a child? What are your hobbies now? When your goals are aligned with who you really are inside, not who someone else wants you to be synchronicity can guide you to your target. Okay. The second question is, is this your dream or someone else's.
[00:02:51] Are your goals and your dreams, your own choice or what others think you should strive for. You do not want to look [00:03:00] back in your old age and wish you had followed your passion. Not that it's ever too late, but we only have the time that we have. And this one can require some digging because our beliefs about what we're supposed to be doing or what we're supposed to want or who we're supposed to be, can run really deep.
[00:03:23] And without going too much into it this time, these beliefs can be buried in our subconscious. And when they're usually put there, when we were very young, In other words, they're not our own. And if we're not aware of them, they can be stopping us without our knowing about it. And then if you think it might be selfish to go after your own dream, just think about how you inspire others by going after your dream and living your best life.
[00:03:57] You have to create your [00:04:00] own joy for yourself before you can give it to others. All right. Number three. Is, are you settling for less than are you resigned to accepting less than your share of love of health success in this lifetime? Are there places where you've compromised or sacrificed what you really want for your life?
[00:04:26] Anything short of living your true passions will never make you truly happy. As a part of this, I've had at least three mentors. Give me a list or have me write a list of things I'm tolerating in my life from am I wearing nice undergarments or pajamas or wandering around with holy underwear? To am I tolerating a leaky faucet, these little things that you might be tolerating in your daily life can actually keep [00:05:00] you from really moving forward and actualizing your dreams.
[00:05:05] Don't underestimate the little things. The little things can make a huge difference. So toleration will be a great feature podcast. Number four is what will you feel like when you reach your dream? The feeling of living your dream life is probably the biggest motivator. So when I write down my 10 dreams every morning, I actually get excited.
[00:05:32] I picture drinking my morning coffee up in the mountains, smelling the fresh mountain air. The crisp air on my skin. I see the sun coming up over the cliffs and I feel the peace and joy that solitude in the mountains gives to me. And it's probably different for you depending on what your dreams are, but that feeling among others for the other [00:06:00] things I have on my dream list.
[00:06:02] It fuels my motivation to accomplish the tasks for the day, especially the ones that are a little bit more difficult that moved me towards my goals and dreams. Number five is what steps can you take today to move towards your dreams? And these don't have to be big steps. They just have to be steps.
[00:06:24] Don't defer your. I have the women in my workshop envision their lives 10 years from now. And that might seem like pretty far out in the future until you think about how fast the last 10 years went. So set up supports and systems around you to instantly translate your intentions into action. Jump on the opportunities that are in line with your purpose and vision.
[00:06:53] That's why I have my clients look so far ahead so that they are more likely to become [00:07:00] aware of the opportunities. And even more importantly, say no to the opportunities that aren't in line with your vision, for the future. For example. I talked in one of my previous podcasts about deciding to be one of the coaches for my son's mountain bike team.
[00:07:18] It aligned with several of the statements on my dream list. One, which is I'm fit and healthy and exercise every day. And the other is that I am an extraordinary mom. So if my son didn't want me to participate, then it would have only aligned with one. And I. I would have said no, since it aligned with both, I decided to say, yes, I went through the online training that it required that took a few hours and started to go to some of the practices before the official season started.
[00:07:53] And honestly, for a little while I was feeling like maybe I shouldn't have said yes, I was feeling too [00:08:00] busy. It's a big time commitment. And it goes all the way through the end of may. But then this past Saturday and Tuesday, our first official rides for the team. I was writing out to the meeting point with my son and I honestly just experienced such joy that I was going out.
[00:08:21] And it felt a little bit like a return, honestly, to my twenties when I used to ride my bike all the time. That feeling made me realize that yes, I absolutely made the right choice. And I also noticed that I'm already getting fitter, even though my son is really fast. And I only see him at the beginning and the end of the rides, I'm grateful to spend that time together or doing something that we both love and the systems come in in that I've made a commitment outside of myself.
[00:08:56] To live into those two dreams and show up for those bike [00:09:00] rides. So think about for yourself. Are there smaller projects that do lead to your larger dream? You know, if you want a bigger home looking at real estate ads or whatever, so start doing that and then track your little wins by writing in a journal or telling a friend.
[00:09:21] And then the final one, number six is, and this is a biggie. Are you telling yourself that you can't have your dream for whatever reason, many people don't believe they can have their dream. This goes back to some of what I said in number two, about your belief system, because often their belief system has them either believing they can't make a living doing what they love.
[00:09:46] Or maybe they feel like they don't deserve to have their dream. And in order to avoid the pain of feeling like they can't have their dream, people often just keep their dreams so buried. They [00:10:00] can't remember. They even ever had a dream. I know many women that are like that. That's a big part of why I do what I do.
[00:10:09] I've seen too many women give up on their dreams because they just seem too big or literally they just forget about them. So spending the time, envisioning your big dreams, writing them down every day and then taking the little steps towards them starts to change your beliefs and then creating a community of women.
[00:10:31] That believe in you and share some of your same dreams also starts to change your narrative. So I hope you take some time during the holiday season to go through this list, do some journaling. And if you'd like to take it a step further, sign up for one of my virtual Design Your Decade Workshops. It's a lot of fun to do this work in community and hear the ideas of other women.[00:11:00]
[00:11:00] And then my Success Habits Reboot starts in mid January, and that's a great place to, to start building that community and experiencing in four weeks, some of the high-performance habits and how you can use those to work towards your dreams and feel free to shoot me an email or a direct message. At [email protected].
[00:11:28] And tell me your insights from this process, I'm really here to cheer you on have a lovely holiday season, and I'll see you in here next. Bye for now. Thank you for listening to the extraordinary life podcast with writer and coach Crystal Obregon. We'd love to connect with you outside of the podcast, too.
[00:11:47] To find more helpful insights, show notes and more about Crystal, go to Crystal Obregon.com that's O B R E G O N, where you will also find info for the Design Your Decade workshop. This [00:12:00] workshop will help you to stop drifting and start creating until next time. Be extraordinary.
